Are you Disengaged, a Dreamer, Dabbler or Purposeful?

Research has shown that only 20% meet the description of being purposeful. With 25% disengaged; 25% dreamers and 31% dabblers.

Disengaged: Not passionate about anything beyond themselves and their own enjoyment.

Dreamers: Aspire to create a life of meaning but they haven’t grounded those dreams into a practical, realistic plan to bring it to fruition.

Dabblers: Jumping from one thing to the next without sustained commitment – an essential aspect of being on purpose.

“The purposeful are those who have found something meaningful to dedicate themselves to, who have sustained this interest over a period of time, and who express a clear sense of what they are trying to accomplish in the world and why. They have found a cause or ultimate goal that inspires their efforts from day to day and helps them fashion a coherent future agenda. They know what they want to accomplish and why, and they have taken concerted steps to achieve their ambitions.” ~William Damon

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Are You From Moving Forward?

Have you ever told yourself that you are going to make something happen and then nothing happens. That’s because you didn’t follow through. You didn’t have the right rituals in place – little things you do each that build up and gradually condition your body and mind to make things happen.

Little things people do every day that stop them from moving forward with their lives:

  1. You change nothing and expect different results.
  2. You keep waiting for the right time.
  3. Your planning and focus are in disarray.
  4. You make the rejections of yesterday the focal point of today.
  5. You refuse to accept necessary risks.

Living is about learning as you go. Living is risky business. Every decision, every interaction, every step, every time you get out of bed in the morning, you take a small risk. To truly live is to know you’re getting up and taking that risk, and to trust yourself to take it. To not get out of bed, clutching to illusions of safety, is to die slowly without ever having truly lived. Think about it: If you ignore your instincts and let shallow feelings of uncertainty stop you, you will never know anything for sure, and in many ways this un-knowing will be worse than finding out your instincts were wrong. Because if you were wrong, you could make adjustments and carry on with your life without looking back and wondering what might have been.


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Joy ~ Money ~ Flow

“Despite our differences, most of us want a balanced life full of work that brings happiness and prosperity. As much as possible, we want to do something we enjoy. We want to put our skills to good use. And ideally, we don’t want to face a false choice between love or money—we’d like to do what we love and be well compensated for it.

Put simply, here’s what we’re looking for:
Something that makes us happy (joy)
Something that’s financially viable (money)
Something that maximizes our unique skills (flow)”

~Chris Guillebeau from Born for This

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Your Written Manifesto

We must go further. Beyond evaluating our current life experience and becoming clear as to whether or not our days’ efforts are meaningful to us, we must set a new and more productive course for our lives.

What will our mission be from this moment forward?

What will be our plan of action?

What steps must be taken?

These questions are not a philosophical suggestion. We should sit down now with pen in hand and write out the focus and direction of our lives from now forward. Lacking our own declarations and directives in life – written down, reviewed, updated, lived from – we can only fall into the herd. We end up where “they” take us, where they want us, wherever the wind blows us, regardless of our hopes and intent. Such a life is not one we want.

~Brendon Burchard from The Motivation Manifesto

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Are You Drinking Enough Water Daily?

Water makes up about two-thirds of your body weight and a person cannot survive without water more than a few days. Every cell, organ and tissue in the body depends on water. It plays very important roles:

  • It helps maintain the balance of body fluids.
  • It regulates and maintains body temperature.
  • It lubricates your joints and eyes.
  • It protects your tissues, spinal cord and joints.
  • It helps your body remove waste products and toxins.
  • It aids digestion.
  • It helps control calorie intake.
  • It helps keep your skin looking good and youthful.



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Brighten Someone’s Day

  1. Leave inspirational notes in random places.
  2. Thank someone.
  3. Be curious about someone.
  4. Do something for yourself.
  5. Make a playlist for someone.
  6. Take it to social media.
  7. Surprise someone with a gift.
  8. Send a handwritten note.
  9. Call someone on the phone.
  10. Invite someone to take a walk in the park with you.

Be creative ~ share what you would do to make someone’s day.


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Fall and Winter SAD

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that is related to changes in seasons – Fall and Winter SAD symptoms usually start in the fall and continue into the spring, with January and February the most difficult months. Some people may experience symptoms specific to summer-onset, referred to as Spring and Summer SAD. Symptoms may include:

  • irritability
  • tiredness or low energy
  • problems getting along with other people
  • hypersensitivity to rejection
  • heavy, leaden” feeling in the arms or legs
  • oversleeping
  • appetite changes, especially a craving for foods high in carbohydrates
  • weight gain.

Treatment includes:

  • light therapy
  • psychotherapy
  • medications
  • make your environment sunnier and brighter
  • get outside – take a walk
  • exercise regularly
  • supplements – St John’s wort, SAMe, Melatonin, Omega-3 fatty acids
  • mind-body therapies – acupuncture, yoga, meditation, guided imagery, massage therapy

Coping and support:

  • stick to your treatment plan (structure/routine)
  • take care of yourself
  • practice stress management
  • socialize
  • take a trip

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How Far Can You Go?

The first year that I engaged in intentional personal growth, I discovered that it was going to be a lifetime process. During that year, the question in my mind changed from “how long will this take?” to “How far can I go?” That is the question you should be asking yourself right now — not that you will be able to answer it. I started this growth journey forty years ago, and I still haven’t answered it. But it will help you set the direction, if not the distance.

Where do you want to go in life?
What direction do you want to go?
What’s the furthest you can imagine going?

Answering those questions all get you started on the personal-growoth journey. The best you can hope to do in life is to make the most out of whatever you’ve been given. You can do that by investing in yourself, making yourself the best you can be. The more you’ve got to work with the greater your potential — and the farther you should try to go. As my dad used to say to me repeatedly when I was a kid, “To whomever much is given — much shall be required.” Give growing your best so you can become your best”

~John C Maxwell from The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth

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Happy New Year

2016 – The new year is a time for celebration and also for reflection, as we look back at 2015 and look ahead to the future. We acknowledge our achievements and our disappointments. We name our hopes and dream, our goals and intentions and sometimes, with trepidation, our resolutions.

Often, the reflecting time prompts me to ask questions about change. I think about the resolutions I have made in the past,many of which I have not been able to sustain, and I ask whether meaningful change is really possible.

My answer to my own question is “YES.” Change is possible. It is also very difficult. In my experience, it takes a whole host of factors to make meaningful change:

  • a community of support and encouragement
  • bold dreams and manageable first steps
  • gentle honesty with myself about the things that get in the way
  • patience and perseverance
  • remembering to seek strength from beyond myself
  • finding a way to make the hard work joyful



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Gifts That Don’t Cost A Cent

  1. The gift of LISTENING … you must really listen. No interrupting, no day-dreaming, no planning your response. Just listen.
  2. The gift of a CHEERFUL DISTRIBUTION … help yourself and everyone around you feel good with smiles and kind words.
  3. The gift of SOLITUDE … sometimes people need to be alone. Be sensitive and give this gift to others.
  4. The gift of a FAVOR … everyday go out of your way to do something kind.
  5. The gift of a COMPLIMENT … a simple and sincere “You did a super job.” or “That was a great meal.” or “I enjoy the time we spend together.”
  6. The gift of a WRITTEN NOTE … just a simple “Thanks for your help” note, a poem, or an inspirational saying.
  7. The gift of LAUGHTER … clip cartoons. Share funny stories. This girl will say “I love to laugh with you.”
  8. The gift of AFFECTION … be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handhelds. Let family and friends know that you care.
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